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About Me
I'm a curious, open-minded and friendly person (or so I've been told many times). :)
I care deeply about emotional wellbeing of people and am exploring how to bring about more consciousness, empowerment and collaboration into the world.
My current mission is to spread Non-Violent Communication (NVC, aka Compassionate Communication, aka Giraffe Language) and other empathetic practices to as many people as possible and to create learning environments and communities.
At the same time, I'm somewhat introverted and spend a lot of time in my head, thinking about various experiences I've had, building models and exploring potential ideas.
Although I have found my life's mission now, for a long time I was not too sure what to do with my life and had to try many things before I could discover what my path is.
I was born and grew up in Vilnius (Lithuania). Ever since last years of high school psychology became my primary hobby. But I ended up studying computer science anyway.
During the studies I spent one semester of Erasmus exchange in Linz (Austria) in 2004, that was a rather big emotional challenge, since I was not fully ready to live on my own, but still ended up a very valuable experience, that connected me to the right community of people interested in self-development.
Then I had a variety of jobs (a programmer, a project manager, a sales person at a bookstore, a baby sitter, a math teacher at a school, a barboy) and many volunteering experiences.
In autumn 2010 I moved to Denmark, which was another challenge, since I had very little money and could not find a job for a long time. But I learned to live on a minimum, discovered dumpster diving. Also while living there I had finally found many of the practices I share today, and connected to many people online who helped me solidify my direction. Still after realizing it's not my country, I returned back to Vilnius at the end of 2016.
Now I work at an alternative experimental school (as a math mentor and developer of systems), consult people as a life coach and organize seminars and practice groups for people interested in empathy.
Some of the quotes I really like that may help shed some light on my world view:
- Live and let live.
Howard Thurman:
- Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.
Carl Rogers:
- Empathy is saying to someone: "I’m trying to be a companion to you in your search and your exploration. I want to know, am I with you? Is this the way it seems to you? Is this the thing you’re trying to express? Is this the meaning it has for you?" So in a sense I’m saying, "I’m walking with you step by step, and I want to make sure I am with you. Am I with you?' "
- Being listened to by someone who understands makes it possible for persons to listen more accurately to themselves, with greater empathy toward their own visceral experiencing, their own vaguely felt meanings.
Mark Twain:
- The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.
Marshall Rosenberg:
- Never do anything that isn't play.
- Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.
- Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy.
Dan Stanford:
- Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
Interests
- walking
- politics
- music
- psychology
- learning languages
- foreign languages
- nonviolent communication
- philosphy
- empathy
- alternative education
- non-violent communication
- voluntaryism
Music, Movies, and Books
Movies:
Baraka, Lost Highway, Mulholland Drive, Four Rooms, Pulp Fiction, 12 Monkeys, Lulu On The Bridge, Pay it forward, Finding Neverland, Fight Club, Lock Stock And Two Smoking Barrels, Rainman, Pink Floyd - The Wall, Breakfast At Tiffany's, Fifth Element, Star Wars and many more...
Music:
Pink Floyd, Queen, Mike Oldfield, Peter Gabriel, Kate Bush, REM, Dead Can Dance, Sarah Brightman, Sting, Brian Adams, Enigma, Enia, STS, Zucchero, Bee Gees, David Bovie, Röyksopp, Daft Punk and many many more...
I'm more of a book listener than a reader and more nonfiction about psychology and self-development, but here are some fiction books that I liked:
J. Gaarder "Sophie's World",
U. Eco "The Name of the Rose",
C. Sagan "The Demon-Haunted World",
J. O. Curwood "Kazan",
L. Carroll "Alice's Adventures in Wonderland" and "Through the Looking-Glass",
C. D. Simak "City",
A. C. Clarke "2001: A Space Odyssey" and "Rendezvous with Rama",
R. Bradbury "Dandelion Wine"
Ph. Pullman "His Dark Materials"
Teach, Learn, Share
Teach:
Empathy, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Languages
Learn:
Languages
Countries I’ve Visited
Austria, Belgium, Czech Republic, Denmark, Estonia, Iceland, Ireland, Italy, Latvia, Malta, Poland, Spain
Countries I’ve Lived In
Austria, Denmark, Lithuania